That is the question many people ask themselves during intercourse. Because you purchased this book, it’s highly probable you would enjoy seeing your mate experience a “blended orgasm”.
And it warrants mentioning here, your display of unselfishness and caring is commendable. However, while the thought of seeing our mate experience a blended G-Spot/clitoral orgasm may be appealing, we must learn to “walk” before we can “run”.
As we learn to “walk”, the first mental step is learning and accepting that people choose to orgasm. Deciding to orgasm is a personal choice. No one can “give” or “will” another person an orgasm—no more than you could “will” a stranger to remove their clothing.
We each make individual choices concerning “if” or “when” we will achieve orgasm—often without conscious deliberation of the subject. For those who are highly orgasmic, the sheer act of
removing clothing (or allowing it to be removed) may mark the decision. For others, the decision may not be concluded until stimulation or coitus is underway and “the waters are tested”, often mere seconds before orgasm. Others release their reservations in layers. Like an autumn tree shedding its leaves, they slowly drop inhibitions, as they grow resoundingly secure and comfortable with the relationship. And yet others refuse ever to relinquish control, usually from fear of self-humiliation, or to avoid appearing too “wanton” or “loose”. Along the way to making the decision, there are several determining factors ensconced within the decision-making process. In order to “let go” and orgasm, most people need to feel secure with their partner. We need to feel good about ourselves, safe at the location, and comfortable with what’s happening to our bodies.
These factors are more prevalent if we’re with a new partner or trying a new experience. While “new” can be exciting, the excitement is fueled by the suspense of not knowing what to expect. And because we don’t know what to expect, we reserve judgment until late into the process.
All of this is important to consider as you administer the GSpot technique. As you may recall, one of the four most common descriptions we receive about the G-Spot experience is: “It felt very different from previous orgasms”. Because of this, at some unknown point while you’re applying the G-Spot technique, your partner will realize something new and very exciting is happening
to her. She will then have to decide whether “to orgasm, or not to orgasm”.
Deciding whether or not to reveal the G-Spot technique is up to you. If you tell your mate beforehand of your plans to administer the G-Spot technique, you may set up to be a victim of “orgasm anxiety” (discussed later). On the other hand, if she senses something new and unknown is happening to her (while you’re applying the G-Spot technique) she may “hold back” and delay or inhibit the orgasm due to the uncertainty of what she’s feeling.
It’s a catch-22 situation and you should remember this as you go. We recommend that you don’t initially mention your plan to administer the technique. Instead, be aware that at some point during your administration, she will sense this “new and exciting” wave of pleasure building within her. Watch for the signs of her uncertainty. When you see these signs, begin reassuring her that you know what’s occurring and understand it. (“I know what’s happening to you. It’s okay. I’m here. Just enjoy what you feel”).
The same thinking holds true with blended orgasms. While we encourage the pursuit of blended orgasms, don’t overwhelm her by trying to make the first G-Spot orgasm a “blended G-Spot/ clitoral orgasm”. Take it one step at a time. After she grows familiar with G-Spot experiences, gaining both confidence and understanding, she’ll be better suited (if not eager) to explore the bold world of blended orgasms.
And it warrants mentioning here, your display of unselfishness and caring is commendable. However, while the thought of seeing our mate experience a blended G-Spot/clitoral orgasm may be appealing, we must learn to “walk” before we can “run”.
As we learn to “walk”, the first mental step is learning and accepting that people choose to orgasm. Deciding to orgasm is a personal choice. No one can “give” or “will” another person an orgasm—no more than you could “will” a stranger to remove their clothing.
We each make individual choices concerning “if” or “when” we will achieve orgasm—often without conscious deliberation of the subject. For those who are highly orgasmic, the sheer act of
removing clothing (or allowing it to be removed) may mark the decision. For others, the decision may not be concluded until stimulation or coitus is underway and “the waters are tested”, often mere seconds before orgasm. Others release their reservations in layers. Like an autumn tree shedding its leaves, they slowly drop inhibitions, as they grow resoundingly secure and comfortable with the relationship. And yet others refuse ever to relinquish control, usually from fear of self-humiliation, or to avoid appearing too “wanton” or “loose”. Along the way to making the decision, there are several determining factors ensconced within the decision-making process. In order to “let go” and orgasm, most people need to feel secure with their partner. We need to feel good about ourselves, safe at the location, and comfortable with what’s happening to our bodies.
These factors are more prevalent if we’re with a new partner or trying a new experience. While “new” can be exciting, the excitement is fueled by the suspense of not knowing what to expect. And because we don’t know what to expect, we reserve judgment until late into the process.
All of this is important to consider as you administer the GSpot technique. As you may recall, one of the four most common descriptions we receive about the G-Spot experience is: “It felt very different from previous orgasms”. Because of this, at some unknown point while you’re applying the G-Spot technique, your partner will realize something new and very exciting is happening
to her. She will then have to decide whether “to orgasm, or not to orgasm”.
Deciding whether or not to reveal the G-Spot technique is up to you. If you tell your mate beforehand of your plans to administer the G-Spot technique, you may set up to be a victim of “orgasm anxiety” (discussed later). On the other hand, if she senses something new and unknown is happening to her (while you’re applying the G-Spot technique) she may “hold back” and delay or inhibit the orgasm due to the uncertainty of what she’s feeling.
It’s a catch-22 situation and you should remember this as you go. We recommend that you don’t initially mention your plan to administer the technique. Instead, be aware that at some point during your administration, she will sense this “new and exciting” wave of pleasure building within her. Watch for the signs of her uncertainty. When you see these signs, begin reassuring her that you know what’s occurring and understand it. (“I know what’s happening to you. It’s okay. I’m here. Just enjoy what you feel”).
The same thinking holds true with blended orgasms. While we encourage the pursuit of blended orgasms, don’t overwhelm her by trying to make the first G-Spot orgasm a “blended G-Spot/ clitoral orgasm”. Take it one step at a time. After she grows familiar with G-Spot experiences, gaining both confidence and understanding, she’ll be better suited (if not eager) to explore the bold world of blended orgasms.
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