“Popular Image” is a strategy that some guys use to meet women. They play the surfer boy, the rich fraternity boy, the jock, the handsome executive, the fun blond, the rich prince, or whatever the prevalent popular image is, and then get associated with the “in” crowd in order to meet interesting people of the opposite sex.
An unknown musician once did an experiment on popularity. He printed a fake brochure saying how great and popular his unknown band was, and then stood outside the doors of someone else's rock concert and handed out the brochures as people exited the concert. In a short while, the previously unknown musician had a large following, and signed with an agent, and was doing his own concerts.
Scientists have studied this phenomenon by testing brand loyalty and consumer buying patterns. They found that when it comes to consumer attraction, it doesn't matter which product works the best or has the best price. Consumers on average are most attracted to products when they learn that the products are popular. In other words, people innately follow fads and fashion. They “join the act” once something or someone is popular. In this way, popular products get even more popular. It's almost common sense, and we have a lot of sayings that reflect this. “The rich get richer. Everybody loves a winner. It takes credit to make credit.” Conversely, the poor get poorer and the unpopular get more unpopular.
The same principle can be used to attract the opposite sex. You can test this yourself. Go to the nearest department store that has some female clerks, and act like you need some help. Smile, act nice, be yourself. Notice how many times they give you eye contact or friendly gestures. Now wait a few weeks (to give them time to forget your face) and go to the same department store with a relative of the same age and opposite sex or a friend who looks like they could be your romantic partner. See how much service you get, and count the eye contact or friendly gestures. You will find that the adage is true; you are much more attractive to other people if it looks as if you already have an admirer (your friend).
The implication of this is astounding. It means that guys who have girlfriends or wives stand an infinitely betterchance of attracting new women than single guys who are saving themselves for “the right girl,” since guys with wives or girlfriends already have a following. It reminds me of my friend George who used to complain, “I know this great girl who never even notices me. But she always complains about how flirtatious her boyfriend is with other women, and how he sometimes cheats on her.” George's dream girl never notices him because George is never seen with girls around him (he's saving himself for “the right person”). At the same time, the dream girl's boyfriend Steven steadily increases in popularity. Every time other girls see Steven and his girl together, Steven's popularity suddenly soars. As his popularity increases, Steven gets even more attention from other women and more chances to cheat.
Put simply, the best way for a man to increase his chances with new women is to always be seen with a woman, preferably a wife or girlfriend.
An unknown musician once did an experiment on popularity. He printed a fake brochure saying how great and popular his unknown band was, and then stood outside the doors of someone else's rock concert and handed out the brochures as people exited the concert. In a short while, the previously unknown musician had a large following, and signed with an agent, and was doing his own concerts.
Scientists have studied this phenomenon by testing brand loyalty and consumer buying patterns. They found that when it comes to consumer attraction, it doesn't matter which product works the best or has the best price. Consumers on average are most attracted to products when they learn that the products are popular. In other words, people innately follow fads and fashion. They “join the act” once something or someone is popular. In this way, popular products get even more popular. It's almost common sense, and we have a lot of sayings that reflect this. “The rich get richer. Everybody loves a winner. It takes credit to make credit.” Conversely, the poor get poorer and the unpopular get more unpopular.
The same principle can be used to attract the opposite sex. You can test this yourself. Go to the nearest department store that has some female clerks, and act like you need some help. Smile, act nice, be yourself. Notice how many times they give you eye contact or friendly gestures. Now wait a few weeks (to give them time to forget your face) and go to the same department store with a relative of the same age and opposite sex or a friend who looks like they could be your romantic partner. See how much service you get, and count the eye contact or friendly gestures. You will find that the adage is true; you are much more attractive to other people if it looks as if you already have an admirer (your friend).
The implication of this is astounding. It means that guys who have girlfriends or wives stand an infinitely betterchance of attracting new women than single guys who are saving themselves for “the right girl,” since guys with wives or girlfriends already have a following. It reminds me of my friend George who used to complain, “I know this great girl who never even notices me. But she always complains about how flirtatious her boyfriend is with other women, and how he sometimes cheats on her.” George's dream girl never notices him because George is never seen with girls around him (he's saving himself for “the right person”). At the same time, the dream girl's boyfriend Steven steadily increases in popularity. Every time other girls see Steven and his girl together, Steven's popularity suddenly soars. As his popularity increases, Steven gets even more attention from other women and more chances to cheat.
Put simply, the best way for a man to increase his chances with new women is to always be seen with a woman, preferably a wife or girlfriend.
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