“Trade up theory” is another strategy that some guys use to meet women. Basically, these men don't care whether or not they like a girl when she becomes their girlfriend. They just use any old girlfriend in order to look more popular, and thus enhance their own attractiveness to other girls. When they find a better girl, they dump their present admirer since she has outlived her usefulness. This is called “trading up.” They dump girlfriend number one and graduate to the more attractive girl, who is usually a friend or acquaintance of the first girl. Then they hang on to the second girl until an even better girl comes along, and so on, and so on. They continue to trade up as far as they can go until they are halted by marriage or bad luck.
There are two advantages to using the trade up strategy. One is that other girls see you with a girlfriend, and immediately your popularity gets a boost. The second advantage is that women will trust you more readily than they would trust a single guy. They would never trust a single
guy because he’s always “looking for something.” But about you, they would think to themselves, “Well it's safe to go out a few times with him. He doesn't have any ulterior motives
since he already has a girlfriend.”
Under the guise of having a girlfriend, a good trade up strategist will increase this “safe contact” with other, trusting, female friends, until the “friendly relationship” with them is at the point of sexual attraction. At that point, the trade up strategist would dump his girlfriend and go out with the new girl. During the process of breaking up, the strategist could even go to the prospective new girl for “advice,” and have her feel sorry for him and console him.
Do women mind when men play the trade up game? It sounds terrible, but women are convinced that this is the way all men already operate. In fact, they play the same game, usually as a precaution against betrayal. Because of their innate understanding of the trade up game, women hate to lose their boyfriends to “the other woman.” The other woman is supposedly “a step up,” and represents an insult to the first woman's self esteem. So women generally try to hang on to their boyfriends. At the same time, many girls intuitively line up a male friend behind their boyfriend's back, as a kind of unconscious safety net in case their present relationship fails.
There are two advantages to using the trade up strategy. One is that other girls see you with a girlfriend, and immediately your popularity gets a boost. The second advantage is that women will trust you more readily than they would trust a single guy. They would never trust a single
guy because he’s always “looking for something.” But about you, they would think to themselves, “Well it's safe to go out a few times with him. He doesn't have any ulterior motives
since he already has a girlfriend.”
Under the guise of having a girlfriend, a good trade up strategist will increase this “safe contact” with other, trusting, female friends, until the “friendly relationship” with them is at the point of sexual attraction. At that point, the trade up strategist would dump his girlfriend and go out with the new girl. During the process of breaking up, the strategist could even go to the prospective new girl for “advice,” and have her feel sorry for him and console him.
Do women mind when men play the trade up game? It sounds terrible, but women are convinced that this is the way all men already operate. In fact, they play the same game, usually as a precaution against betrayal. Because of their innate understanding of the trade up game, women hate to lose their boyfriends to “the other woman.” The other woman is supposedly “a step up,” and represents an insult to the first woman's self esteem. So women generally try to hang on to their boyfriends. At the same time, many girls intuitively line up a male friend behind their boyfriend's back, as a kind of unconscious safety net in case their present relationship fails.
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